Anxiety
You can drive locally and you can't drive the highways or the bridges anymore.
You can drive. You can’t drive the highway, or over the bridge, or through the tunnel, or more than twenty minutes from home. Or you can, but you white-knuckle the wheel and arrive shaking. You used to drive without thinking about it. You now plan every route around what you can handle. Other people in the car don’t know what’s happening behind the wheel because you’ve gotten good at hiding it.
You’ve shrunk your driving life around the fear. The fear has a map of the places you don’t go.
It started with one drive that went wrong, and you avoided next time, and the avoidance worked. You’re still here.
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You very likely had a panic experience or a near-miss in your car, and your nervous system flagged the highway as a place that almost killed you. You may have absorbed the lesson that you survived because you got off the road, so getting off the road has become how you survive. You may have grown up with a parent who was anxious behind the wheel and inherited their relationship to driving without ever questioning it. You may have lived through an accident as a passenger or witness that taught you to be afraid of the road as a class of place.
Each back road and passenger seat and benzo confirms that the highway is dangerous. The relief you feel when you take the easier route trains the next decision. You’ll take the easier route again. White-knuckling a highway drive while terrified just adds another scary highway memory to the pile. Either direction trains the fear bigger.
This is the same pattern as agoraphobia : avoidance produces relief, and relief makes the next avoidance automatic.
You’re using the easier route to manage the fear. The easier route is what keeps the fear large.
Strategic therapy enters at the point where you take the easier route, the seconds when the bargaining with the road begins. We change what you do at that fork so the relief stops paying you to keep avoiding. The highway, the bridge, and the long drive come back without exposure programs that put you back on the road white-knuckled.
You’ll get the highway back. And the bridge. And the long drive.
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