Anxiety

I have anxious thoughts I can't control

Anxiety is irrational. Trying to analyze it as if it is rational is the same as hammering a nail harder into the wall thinking that's how you'd pull it out.

Is this how it feels?

You’re going about your day and something triggers it. Most often, it’s not even something real. Sometimes it’s nothing you can recognize as a valid reason. It could be a sudden noise or seeing a man with a black hat. Each anxious mind has its own set of favorite triggers.

And then what happens?

Your chest feels tight as if a heavy weight is pressing you down, and your breath gets shallow.

A certainty arrives that something bad is about to happen.

You try to talk yourself out of it. You know those thoughts don’t make sense. You know nothing is actually wrong. But your racing mind just won’t listen. You’ve been told to breathe through it. You’ve been told to challenge your thoughts, to practice acceptance, to get more exercise, to cut back on caffeine.

You’re still here, reading about your anxiety, so you know how well that pop-psychology advice worked.

Do you really have anxiety?

Educational, not diagnostic. Not a substitute for clinical assessment.

What have you already tried?

You may have done all of this:

Some of it helps on easy days. On the days you need it most, nothing soothes your nerves.

Why none of it worked

All of those approaches treat anxiety like a problem with a rational solution. They assume if you just think differently, breathe differently, or live differently, the anxiety will stop.

That’s not what’s happening.

Anxiety isn’t born from your thoughts about something.

Anxiety is born from the moment your mind decides that uncertainty equals threat.

Once that decision is made, everything else follows. Your brain automatically analyzes everything in order to get any bit of certainty.

You avoid harmless situations to stay safe.

You use breathing exercises to try to calm your body. The original decision, that something unknown is dangerous, stays intact. So the cycle keeps running.

Your thoughts aren’t the problem. The deep structure, which is the thinking pattern that runs the anxiety, is the actual problem.

How we work with it

In strategic therapy we locate the exact point in your anxiety sequence where it’s still vulnerable, before momentum carries it, and we intervene there. The change happens at how the sequence runs, which is the level the what never reaches. Once the sequence stops completing, the loop stops repeating.

Most people who’ve had anxiety for years have gotten advice about what to think. Nobody has looked at how the thinking works.

Once that changes, anxiety stops being something that happens to you. It becomes something you forgot.

When you're ready to stop managing anxiety and start working with it

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