Focus
The starting is fine and the finishing is impossible and the half-finished projects have been accumulating for years.
The new project is exciting. You start it. The middle becomes hard. You stop. A new project becomes exciting. You start that. The first one stays where you left it. Years pass. The list of half-finished projects is long. The list of finished things is short. You’ve started to suspect this is a pattern.
Your starting and your not-finishing are the same system. It’s been training itself for a long time.
The next project still ends in the middle.
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The starting is the dopamine event. The middle has none of the dopamine. The finishing requires holding through the absence of dopamine, which is harder than starting. The next new project is the next dopamine event, which is easier to reach for than holding through the middle of the old one.
You very likely came up with a particular relationship to performance and to the verdict that comes with finishing. Finishing means the thing is now subject to evaluation. Not finishing means it stays in the realm of the potential. You may have absorbed the lesson that the potential version of you was always more impressive than any actual completion would be, and the not-finishing has been protecting the potential.
For the related patterns, see I procrastinate everything , I’m a perfectionist , or I have impostor syndrome . For the broader framework, see I can’t focus .
The not-finishing is doing work. The work is protective. The protection has been more expensive than what it’s been protecting against.
Strategic therapy stops the half-finishing by changing what happens in the middle of the project, where the dopamine has dropped out and the protective response kicks in. We make the verdict that comes with finishing survivable, so the project doesn’t have to be parked at 70 percent to keep the potential version of you intact. One thing at a time gets walked all the way through to the end.
The half-finished pile starts shrinking. The version of you that lived in the potential gets to find out what the actual version can do.
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