Focus
Names and appointments and where you put your keys and the forgetting has its own cost in your relationships and your work.
You forget the appointment. You forget the name of the person you met three times. You forget where you put the keys. You forget what you walked into the room for. You forget the thing your partner asked you to remember. The forgetting has its own cost. People in your life have started reminding you, then resenting having to remind you.
Your forgetting isn’t memory failure. It’s a system that’s been processing more inputs than it can hold.
The forgetting kept happening.
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The apps require you to use them, which requires you to remember to use them, which is the exact thing you’ve been forgetting to do. The apps work for things you remember to log. They don’t work for things that pass through too fast to log.
You very likely came up with an attention system that’s been splitting itself across too many demands. The information that doesn’t get encoded properly doesn’t get remembered. The encoding requires attention, which is what’s been in short supply. You may have a baseline attention profile that makes this harder (ADHD, neurodivergence). You may have built an adult life with too many simultaneous demands for any attention system to encode well. You may have absorbed the lesson that you’re supposed to handle everything, and the handling has been at the cost of remembering what you’re handling.
For the related patterns, see I can’t focus , I’m always late , or Did I just discover I have ADHD as an adult .
Your forgetting is downstream of the attention. The attention is what we work on.
Strategic therapy treats the forgetting as a load problem, not a memory problem. We thin out the simultaneous demands that have been preventing anything from getting encoded properly, and we change what you do in the three seconds when information is passing through. The apps stop being a cope for an attention system that was never going to keep up with what was being asked of it.
What matters starts staying with you. The forgetting drops because the conditions producing it stop running in the background.
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