OCD
The thought arrives that you're secretly a monster and you spend hours interrogating yourself for proof.
A thought arrives that horrifies you. “What if I secretly want to harm someone.” “What if I don’t really love my partner.” “What if I’m a fraud.” “What if I’m a monster and I just don’t know it.” You know the thought isn’t true. You also can’t shake it. You spend hours examining your motives, looking for evidence, replaying old conversations to check whether you might have been cruel. You write apologies you don’t send. You confess things you didn’t do.
The thought feels intolerable, so you investigate. The investigation is what keeps the thought running.
The next thought still arrives.
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You very likely came up under the kind of moral pressure that made being good a full-time vigilance. You may have grown up in a household, a religion, or a culture where the line between bad thoughts and bad actions was blurred, and you absorbed that having a thought meant being responsible for it. You may have had a parent who interrogated your motives until you started doing the work for them. You may have been the kid who got told you were too sensitive to other people’s pain and decided to never give anyone reason to think you’d cause it.
Each investigation produces brief relief because you arrive at “I’m not actually a bad person.” The relief reinforces that investigation works. You learned that whenever a “what if I’m bad” thought arrives, an investigation will be performed and relief will follow. The next thought arrives because the system is trained to produce it.
This is moral OCD or scrupulosity. The thoughts feel especially threatening because they’re about your character. The investigation feels morally required. The investigation is the loop.
People who actually do bad things don’t spend hours wondering if they did. The fact that you’re investigating is evidence the thought isn’t true.
If your intrusive thoughts are sexual or violent in nature, see I have intrusive sexual thoughts or I have intrusive violent thoughts .
Strategic therapy refuses to chase the thought. It works the investigation instead. The thought is allowed to arrive and pass without being audited, which is the precise thing the system needs to stop doing if the next thought is going to come less often. You learn to recognize the urge to check your motives and to let it sit there unanswered, and the relief loop loses its food source.
The interrogation stops being the response, and the thoughts get quieter because nothing is replying to them.
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